“Dad, to tell you the truth, I don’t know or trust loan so if she’s going to stay at my apartment then I would like someone to keep an eye on her.” I’m trying to help my dad out because he’s planning on taking kyle, loan, and Hannah/lisa to Disneyland this weekend. If I can extend my apartment stay for a few days then they wont have to pay for a hotel (pending some paperwork and roommate reactions).

He called me premature for not trusting her

I said that the only real fact that I know about loan is that she’s kyles mom. In my book, sleeping with a married man indicates poor judgment. I went on to say that during the only time that I’ve spent with her, she was silent. I let him know that I’m open to getting to know her; but until I have some indication of her intentions I don’t trust her. To sting: I said that if I were to judge her based upon the accounts of grandma, aunt, and dad it would not help her case. She has been described as a “stupid”, “ugly”, “selfish”, “mentally unsound” person who (and this next one came from my dad) “I hate, because she could have made my company be successful but she refused to work”. But hey, I’m a daughter from the first family so of course they’re going to say mean things about her. fortunately for her, i try to be an objective person so I dont weight those claims made by other people.

He said that the fact that he’s trusting loan with taking care of kyle should give her the benefit of the doubt.

I reminded him that he and I have very different standards when it comes to morals/values.

    This has got to be the first time in months that I’ve talked to my dad. I don’t mind talking to him because it’s good to communicate, however I know that I’m stirring up conflict and that’s not the ‘nice’ thing to do. I’m so conflicted between being a good sister to my siblings and expressing my own opinions on the lack of morals (mostly pertaining to my dad). The best thing would be for me to communicate how flawed the situation is while not upsetting or causing (additional) tensions to family ties. Unfortunately, I still tear up when talking about family and action in itself makes people uncomfortable so the situation can get tense/defensive.